Failure makes you humble..

Success is the wonderful thing but it tends not to be the sort of experience we learn from.

We enjoy success perhaps we even deserve it,But we don’t acquire wisdom from it and maybe that’s why it cannot be passed on either. Me being successful does not mean my kids are going to be successful even if I teach them everything that I know and how to do it, So I feel that talking about success is completely a big waste of time Instead let me tell you very honestly if I am successful it is because I am is very terrified from failure. I don’t want as much to succeed as much I don’t want to fail.

Let me be honest I come from a very lower middle class family I saw a lot of failure my father was a beautiful man and the most successful failure in the world my mother also failed to stay long enough with me to see me become big.I used to equate poverty with failure I just didn’t want to be poor.

So when I got a chance to become big shot it was not out of some desire. I say this honestly It was purely out of the fear of failure and poverty. Most of the jobs I did were discards of others in the beginning and no one else was ready to do them I did them all to make sure that I was working and to avoid unemployment the timing of something was right I worked very hard there were other people around me and I became big my work took off well.

Which means sometimes our success is not the direct result of actions and let nobody tell you that success sometimes just happens.

Really…

It is accidental and we have to take credit for it I do it sometimes cheerily out of embarrassment. So I believe the true path to success is through the fear of failure.If you aren’t scared enough of failing you are unlikely to succeed It’s not pleasant to fail.It’s tough.All of us experience it you will too if you haven’t already. So use it to succeed.

Firstly it’s not the absence of failure that makes you successful it is your response to failure that actually helps to buffer the reverses that you experience.

I personally have one response to failure.
Pragmatism…
A recognition and belief that if one approach does not work then the other will or might.
Failure also gives me an incentive to greater exertion, Harder work.
Which invariably leads to later success in most cases. Repeated failure has taught me to stop pretending I am someone else it has given me clarity to stick to things that really matter to me instead of distracting me from my core.

Failure also gets you to find who you are , Who your real friends are the true strength of your relationship only gets tested in the face of strong adversity.
Overcoming some of my failures has made me discover that I have a strong will and more discipline than I suspected. It has helped me to have confidence in my ability to survive. Failure is an amazing teacher.

There is a well known story of a very successful man and a reported who asked him once.

“Sir how is it that you always succeed”

and he said..

“Right decisions”…

Reporter “ How do you make right decisions”

He says “You know Experience”

Reporter “How do you get such experience”

He says “Wrong decisions and failing”

So do fail and it is alright to fail.

You have to know and learn that life is not just a check list of acquisitions ,attainments and fulfillment. Your qualifications and CV’s don’t really matter instead life is difficult and complicated and beyond anyone’s control.

The humility to know it will help you survive its vicissitudes.

But I don’t want to sound dark here my hope for all is to retain a lifelong love of learning. That you never cease to dream and live with all the exiting and inspiring dreams and when you fail you fail well enough to succeed the next time.

Don’t be afraid of being afraid….Be afraid of not facing your fears and failures